I still remember the first
day I approached a girl. I was like 16 years old (I think) and my friend Jeff
had just introduced me to his girl. She was damn pretty! I was like ‘Gee how
did ya do that!’ Jeff made it sound kind of easy and even gave me some lines to
use (which he claimed no girl can resist). My first try was
a complete fiasco because I was blabbing half of the time and dumb the other half. The second and third attempts were not so different.
a complete fiasco because I was blabbing half of the time and dumb the other half. The second and third attempts were not so different.
Well, women can smell a
pick-up line a mile away and they don’t really respond all that well. The
problem is that while you might be a genuine guy who has been religiously
studying his dating guide on how to pick up women, she will simply think that
you are either a player or weak.
Smooth pick-up lines usually
turn on the alarm bells for most women because they think they are being
played. Plus, the fact that she has probably already been told by fifty other
guys how beautiful her eyes are won’t help the situation much either. So, the
key is to stand out from the crowd.
The first thing you
shouldn’t do is presume they have no idea what you are doing. Let me tell you
that it’s a game you will fail at. Women are like predators when it comes to
smelling your weaknesses and your intentions. They can smell what you want from
a mile away because they are masters at reading body language. You will give
yourself away before you utter the first syllable and then you are doomed to
fail.
On the other hand, rather
than trying to hide that you are attempting to pick her up, get great at it and
you won’t have to hide anymore. Remember, cocky confidence and humor are a
powerful combination that you can use to your advantage.
Out
with Pick Up Lines, In With Conversation
One of the biggest problems
with pick up lines is that they are a clear sign of the fact that you are
nervous. You see, the delivery is much more important than what you actually
say. If you are cool, confident and collected you could recite the telephone
book and she would still find you attractive. On the other hand if you stutter
over a pre-rehearsed pick up line then you are clearly showing that you are
nervous, which is not going to win you any points.
Again, rather than starting
off with some cheesy pick-up line, your chances increase tenfold if you engage
her in an interesting topic, asking her opinion. This works really well if you
ask her to offer her opinion on a controversial subject you are debating with a
friend. One, she will be more likely to answer because women don’t like to be
rude for the sake of it and two, it’s a great way to draw her into a lengthier
conversation which will allow her to see who you really are.
If you simply ask whether
you can buy her a drink or not, she can say “No, thanks,” and leave. However,
if you ask her opinion on whether or not women earn less in the workplace than
men doing the same job because you have been debating it with your friend, you
will spark her interest and she is more likely to stick around and argue her point.
The
Phone Number or Email Address
For some strange reason,
most women are more comfortable giving out their email address, than they are
their phone number. And, in fact, email is a much better way to start off the
conversation because they also tend to become a little distant on the phone.
By using email she will be
more comfortable with you as she will gain a little insight into how you think.
She will also be pleased that you took the time to think about what you are
going to say to her. Another great thing about email is that she will be more
likely to answer an email because you are more likely to reach her than by
calling her. And, she can answer at any time, unlike if you call her and she is
at work or in the middle of a meeting.
The secret to asking for a
phone number or an email address is to use a little humor and confidence. For
example, a great way to get an email address is to ask her whether she has
email or not. When she answers yes, simply take out a piece of paper and pen
and pass them to her, essentially taking her yes as an acceptance to give it to
you.
Then, while she is writing
you can try to get her to write down her number as well, or, wait to get her
number via email. Since women see little risk in giving out their email because
being harassed by email is quite unlikely, you are usually better off
exchanging a few emails first and then asking for her number.
Yes, you still need to
appear confident when asking for her email, so, to build up your confidence,
simply practice getting phone numbers and emails from women. You can go to the
mall every day and practice so you can get over your fear of rejection. The
more rejections you receive, the less they will affect you.
In conclusion, wooing a lady
is not rocket science. You must be calm and don’t put so much show in your
effort to impress her, because that could make you appear fake in her eyes. Be
calm and act natural. Don’t forget to wear a smile!
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