There are guys who really know how to blow it big time just when the lady is about to lend out her heart to them. If you really want to have a working relationship; a relationship that both of you can enjoy, then you are in the right place. I'm not going to bore you with the science and psychology of a relationship. You don't really need all that. What you want to know is how to win a girl's heart and
keep it safe I suppose. well, that's sometime you can work towards; it takes time. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. What people often call a perfect relationship is simply two mature individuals who have agreed to keep off from each other toes even when it's difficult to ignore; and that demands patience and tolerance - I mean lots of it!
Here are 7 relationship clues that can help you have a more stable relationship:
Listen to her
Yes! listen to her. I'm not talking about hearing all she has to say, truth me that can make your head to explode. What I mean is to pay keen attention. There is a difference between hearing and listening. You hear words and sounds, but if you listen you will hear what she is saying and other things she can't find words to articulate; which you can easily miss if you don't listen.
Know what calms her down
Some ladies actually do have temper issue (guys too), but that doesn't mean she isn't worth dating. If you are dating such girl you have to work extra hard. Don't just know what calms her down, but learn also how to avoid what flares her in the first place. We all have our vulnerabilities. We may not be good at everything. It's good to know how to calm her down, but even much better to know how to avoid the things that pisses her off.
Learn her own definition of love
If there is something you should know, it is probably that we all are unique. You have to learn her definition of love and give it to her that way. If she loves you always being around, or taking her out or so, then you had better be ready to do that. There are different strokes for different folks. Don't expect her to be like someone else, perhaps your friend's girlfriend. Treat her the way she want to be treated if you really want the relationship to last.
Respect her
You have to give her the respect that she deserves. Talk to her in a calm and soothing tone. Keep your aggression for you enemies, if you must. She is a woman and not your slave. Be patient with her, help her out with some house chores. I have learnt that the best way to get respect is to give respect.
Treat her as you were in the beginning
You know how it were when the love first started, don't change that. Don't make her feel used. Call her, text her, buy her gifts. Just do all those sweet things that made her fall in love with you in the first place.
Don't ever compare her with some other girl
If there is something that really ignite the anger of a woman, it is to be compared to some other woman by her man. Don't fool yourself thinking that you are trying to get her jealous, because you might just succeed and that may be the biggest mistake of your life. She is who she is period.
Don't assume that you know what she want in bed
You know what they say that assumption is the mother of all fuck-ups. Stop trying to impress her, just let her guide you through it. Every woman needs in bed differs; some what it hard and rough, while some want it slow and steady. Make sure you know exactly what she want and how she want it. Remember that her needs in bed may also differ from day to day. Effective communication is very paramount in achieving sexual satisfaction for the both of you.
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